If there’s one thing life has consistently shown me, it’s that nothing stays the same. And that’s not a bad thing! It’s in those shifts, those moments of change, that we discover our resilience, our capacity to learn, and the incredible potential for growth we never knew we had.
The Shifting Sands of Life
Before we explore the practical steps of finding our inner compass amidst life’s transitions, I want to acknowledge the incredible journey we’re on. If you’re finding the strength to relearn and grow, your resilience shines through. You’ve got this! Let’s shift our focus from fleeting external validation to the true treasures: joy of learning and the profound power of self-love: the foundation of a fulfilling life.
Remember, when life’s weight feels crushing, allow yourself ten minutes of quiet. Step away, breathe deeply, and reconnect with your inner self. Ground yourself, find your center, and trust your strength to navigate any challenges.
Now, let’s embrace the journey of finding our inner compass during life’s transitions. This is a path of self-discovery, understanding our internal guidance to navigate change. It’s not just about altering circumstances, but transforming perspective, reclaiming your power, and creating a new chapter.
At Crossroads – Photo By Deva Darshan
Welcome to “Finding Your Inner Compass: Navigating Life’s Transitions.”
Have you ever felt stuck at a crossroads, where familiar paths offer no comfort? We’ve all been there, feeling isolated in our own struggles. The longing for growth and a brighter future can seem distant. This blog reflects my current journey of rebuilding. For those who know me, I am a person who has it together all the time, but this time I can say I don’t and didn’t.
Unlike familiar ups and downs, but never reached a place of back-to-back events like this (knee injury then being diagnosed with fibroids and more). My usual power was gone, I had to embrace stillness and embark on the profound journey of rebuilding my mind, body, and soul. The immediate rehabilitation of the hospital stay was overwhelming, a period of intense transformation that I’ll share more intimately in future posts, as each moment unfolded with unique significance.
My purpose in writing this is tied in my current phase of pausing and reconnecting. Let’s now explore how my perspective on life is evolving.
My Way in the Unknown – Photo By Mo Eid
I. My Journey: Finding My Way in the Unknown
Every personal journey is different, as is every situation. Following major operation, a profound disconnect from myself surprised me, despite a prior sense of inner connection. I found myself in constant internal conflict, questioning my present and future identity. This significant, life-altering period prompted a deliberate shift.
Instead of old coping mechanisms, I focused on navigating small steps. My aim was to release anxieties and reset my mind, body, and spirit – a journey far more challenging to navigate in reality than in concept, with healing frequently following its own unpredictable rhythm.
Significantly, for the first time, I felt lost without direction, lacking my usual motivation, the desire to engage with people, or even the energy to be myself. Relearning fundamental self-care, redefining self-love, and cultivating a profound understanding of my body’s needs became essential.
While we often hold an idealised vision of a “perfect” life, reality, in its honesty, embraces imperfections. Protecting your well-being is key. If something or someone consistently hinders your progress and lies outside your control, consider whether the energy invested in resistance is truly serving you.
Mel Robbins wisely states, “You can’t control how you feel. But you can always choose how you act. Start before you’re ready.”
Let’s dive into my experiences and the gradual shift in my mindset towards healing and growth. The depth of the shock and my initial sense of helplessness were more profound than expected. I began integrating gentle and healthy habits into my day, like short walks (my sole physical option then, and still largely so, due to my body’s recovery) and brief moments of meditation became my light to one step closer. Instead of dwelling on the past, I started journaling my thoughts and envisioning my future. Re-establishing a daily routine provided vital structure and stability, though maintaining consistency remains a challenge even four months into recovery.
Actively reshaping my mindset involved consistent positive affirmations and cultivating gratitude through my Filtered To Me Journal. Nurturing my physical health meant making changes to my diet choices, while prioritising emotional wellness involved dedicated mindfulness and journaling practices.
As expected, there were challenges, and many of them seemed to hit all at once. Leading to days of feeling overwhelmed and uncertain. However, I learned the importance of self-compassion, acknowledging each small step forward as a step in stone. This consistent recognition of progress was crucial in sustaining my momentum. Throughout this deeply personal journey, I relied entirely on my own inner strength and resources.
When the Compass Spins – Photo By Anastasia Shuraeva
III. The Challenges: When the Compass Spins
One of the biggest hurdles I faced in starting again was the fear of the unknown. I realised that the familiar vision of what I thought would work was no longer effective. This was a period where I contemplated every potential negative outcome, and I had to accept either possibility. This uncertainty led to setbacks in my growth; some days felt like two steps back for every step forward. During this process, I consciously chose to view these setbacks as opportunities for growth and nothing more; they ultimately refined my approach and motivated me to do more.
I had to accept starting again in any way is to see the lens as a marathon and not a sprint. It requires patience, persistence, and a willingness to keep moving forward, even when the finishing line seems far away.
Through all of these challenges, I learned that self-compassion was key. To be kind to myself, to accept that I was learning and growing, and that mistakes were a part of the process.
Embracing Each Day as It Comes:
Unlike before, when I would carry on through any pain or difficulty, the post-C-section experience was a complete shock that brought my life to a standstill. Recognising this, I moved away from my usual detailed planning and aimed for the achievable goal of three tasks per day.
My Challenges:
- Engage in a Mind-Shifting Activity: Choose an activity that redirects your focus, such as going for a walk, spending time in nature, absorbing the energy from the surrounding greenery, and breathing fresh air. Take frequent breaks during your chosen activity (the frequency and duration will depend on the activity itself).
- Read for Self-Development: I specifically chose self-development books because they help shift your mindset from negative to a more positive and open state, facilitating a deeper connection with yourself.
- Foster Self-Connection: Engage in activities like meditation, a new skincare routine, and incorporating small healthy habits. For example, if you started a new habit today, commit to it for three days, then gradually introduce another healthy habit you enjoy or want to try again.
If you experience any setbacks during the day, try to learn from them or opt for a smaller, more manageable task if things feel overwhelming. The key is to do something, no matter how challenging it may seem. Retrain your inner self to return to the present moment, leaving behind worries about the past or future. Never give up on your journey.
IV. The Rewards: Discovering New Horizons
Take the time each day to celebrate what you’ve accomplished, and when facing difficulties, remember to connect with your ‘why’ for renewed strength. Often, we forget to reward ourselves for the progress we haven’t fully recognised yet, even if others can see it. I learned this from a book that highlighted our tendency to focus on the negative while overlooking the rewards and effort we’ve invested. Life certainly places significant stress and pressure on us to constantly strive for “the best” and so forth.
However, facing the challenges of finding my bearing has cultivated a resilience within me that I hadn’t previously recognised. Reconnecting with my inner compass has also helped me rediscover my sense of purpose. The most significant rewards of this journey have been the increased joy and fulfillment I now experience.
My overall well-being has improved dramatically; I feel more balanced, energised, and at peace with myself. (again, this is just the beginning of something new)
Therefore, always acknowledge the rewards of your efforts, no matter how small or significant they may seem.
V. Guiding Lights: Books That Illuminated My Path
As part of my commitment to my personal growth in 2025, I set a resolution to read a book of my choice every month. So far, I’ve encountered three truly remarkable books that I’m eager to share with you. Let’s give a virtual round of applause to the incredible talents of Mel Robbins, Brianna Wiest, and Maria Hatzistefanis!
Each one holds different moments in my life. These powerful women share profound insights into the human experience. It might sound surprising, but I didn’t develop a love for reading until I reached the age of 25, a time when I felt particularly lost. Reading then became a cherished way for me to navigate those feelings of being stuck.
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The Let Them Theory – Mel Robbins
Book 1: “The Let Them Theory” by Mel Robbins
This book guides readers to release control and focus on their own actions. During my reinvention, realizing I was wasting energy trying to manage others, this book empowered me to let go and focus on my well-being, bringing profound peace.
Key Takeaways:
- Focus inward
- Establish healthy boundaries
- Allow others their own responsibility
- Prioritise self-care
- Release control for inner peace and strength
Why it helps: It freed me from the stress of managing others, allowing me to focus on my growth and set protective boundaries, reinforcing my responsibility for myself.
P.S. I often wish I had encountered this wisdom years ago; it resonates deeply with my life experiences.
The Mountain Is You – Brianna Wiest
Book 2: “The Mountain Is You” by Brianna Wiest
“The Mountain Is You” explores self-sabotage and how past patterns create internal obstacles to growth. A revelation during my reinvention, it helped me identify these patterns and understand the impact of my past, providing invaluable tools for self-reflection and healing.
Key Takeaways:
- Recognise self-sabotage
- Understand its roots
- Heal past wounds
- Embrace self-awareness and self-compassion
Why it helps: It helped me understand and overcome self-sabotaging patterns, fostering self-kindness during healing and enabling lasting change.
P.S. This was the first book I read during a significant life transition, fostering self-awareness and providing much-needed healing.
How To Make It Happen – Maria Hatzistefanis
Book 3: “How To Make It Happen – Turning Failure Into Success” by Maria Hatzistefanis (My current readings)
Maria Hatzistefanis emphasises failure as part of success and offers advice on transforming setbacks. During my reinvention, needing unapologetic motivation that setbacks don’t define me, Maria’s honest perspective showed me failures can propel you forward on my current journey.
Key Takeaways so far:
- Embrace failure as a valuable learning experience, not a final outcome;
- cultivate a resilient mindset and the ability to recover from setbacks;
- take calculated risks and step outside your comfort zone; focus on your strengths and leverage them to achieve your objectives;
- develop a strong work ethic and unwavering determination
Why it helps: This book helped me to change my perspective on failure, teaching me that it’s an important part of learning and not something to be feared, giving me the confidence to take risks and persevere, and helping me navigate my own reinvention journey.
I wholeheartedly encourage you to explore these books and discover the insights they may offer for your own personal journey. And I’d love to hear from you – what books have been guiding lights on your path to reinvention?
My next read is … “The Life That’s Waiting” by Brianna Wiest.”
VI. Finding Your Way: Practical Tools and Faith in the Process
Before you embark on your own path of rediscovery, take a moment for self-reflection. Identify your core values – what truly matters to you? Let these be your guiding stars in every decision you make. Remember, reinvention is progress, not perfection.
- Start with small, specific, intentional steps, breaking down larger goals into manageable actions and celebrating every inch of forward movement.
- Be prepared to adjust your course as you learn and grow, embracing flexibility as your constant companion.
- Cultivate a supportive network of understanding individuals who champion your journey.
Above all, practice unwavering self-compassion, especially during challenging times. Regularly reflect on your progress and adapt your path as you evolve.
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Ultimately, you possess the inherent power to create a life aligned with your truest self. Believe wholeheartedly in your capabilities and your capacity for profound transformation.
Take a moment today to reflect on your deepest desires and write down one small, actionable step you can take to move closer to them. Even the tiniest action can generate significant momentum.
Embrace the understanding that reinvention is a beautiful and deeply transformative journey. Trust in your inner strength to navigate any challenge and embrace the inherent beauty of new beginnings.
You have the power to craft a life that is not just fulfilling, but truly extraordinary.
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